#DidYouKnow: Women’s History Month

March is designated as Women’s History Month! However, did you know that Women’s History Month started out as Women’s History Week?

Women around the US began women history celebrations during the first week of March to gain the attention of nation. As the recognition and participation during these women conventions increased, President Jimmy Carter declared a Presidential Proclamation for the week of March 8th to become the National Women’s History Week in 1980.

“From the settlers who first came to our shores, from the first American Indian families who befriended them, men and women have worked to build this nation. Too often the women were unsung and sometimes their contributions went unnoticed. But the achievements, leadership, courage, strength and love of the women who built America was as vital as that of the men whose names we know so well.”

President Jimmy Carter’s Message designating March 2-8, 1980 as National Women’s History Week

Successive Presidents went on year after year and continued to proclaim National Women’s History Week in March until 1987 when Congress passed Public Law 100-9, which finally declared March as Women’s History Month.

Did you know that every year there is a different theme for Women’s History Month?

The National Women’s History Alliance chooses and publishes the annual theme for Women’s History Month. The 2019 Women’s History Month theme is “Visionary Women: Champions of Peace & Nonviolence.” This years theme honors women who have pioneered efforts to end war, violence, and injustice and led the implementation of nonviolence to change society.

If you would like more information on women’s history exhibits and collections check out the Library of Congress, National Archives and Records Administration, National Endowment for the Humanities, National Gallery of Art, National Park Service, Smithsonian Institution and United States Holocaust Memorial Museum who feature a plethora of information regarding women’s history.

Plenty of Fish in the Sea

I can’t even tell you the countless times I have comforted a gurlfriend that finds herself distraught over something their “man” did to them or a fight they had. Shoootttt, I myself have cried over many men; replayed situations over in my head about how I could of went about something differently so the relationship wouldn’t be tragically tarnished. Now that I look back, I realize how stupid I was. And as for my gurlfriends, they were just caught under a guys spell–it happens to the best of us.

But why do we allow ourselves to get so caught up in a man that is no good for us, so much so, that we are afraid to let them go?

I believe it is due to the fact that we are conditioned at a very young age that securing a man should be one of our main goals in life. Making us relationship-oriented beings that place a high value on nurturing our relationships, with our significant other at the top of the list. For this reason, we fear being alone, so we tend to stay in unfulfilling relationships.

This is absolute bullsh*t because trust and believe me when I say, that man you are with is not the cream-of-the-crop of all men. There are plenty more fish in the sea, and I feel like as women we often forget this fact and tend to hold on to failing relationships longer than we should.

Gurl, you hold all the power in the relationship, and don’t let that power go out of insecurities or fear of the unknown. If this guy doesn’t know your worth, let him go because there is a guy out there that will love and appreciate you the way you want them to. Remember you’re a f*cking catch, and if they don’t recognize that from the jump then they aren’t worth your time, effort, or love. Never settle.

Change your mindset, change your life!

Once you do this for yourself, gurl your glow up is about to be life changing. I saw this first hand with my younger sister. She was dating a guy for almost 4 years, that last year they were dating he moved across country due to his job and my sister was seriously planning on moving with him when she graduated college the next year. I think it was the long distance that put additional strain on their relationship and she made the decision to end the relationship. When she finally told me about the break up, I thought it was a little sudden and asked her, “why now?” She simply stated, “because I deserve better.”

I was blown away by her ability to see her value and know what she wants out of her relationship at such a young age. I was proud of her because it is a hard decision to make to throw away all of the time you invested in someone but she has since blossomed so beautifully.

Of course there are times when she feels lonely but I am always there to remind her of all the accomplishments she has made since then and urge her to find comfort in solace and enjoy her endless “me” time. However, when you get to the point where you are truly comfortable and happy being single, the right person will come along wanting to contribute to your growth.

With all of that said, I now challenge you to be that “sister” to friend in need of an encouraging reminder of her value to help her find peace in singleness and keep fishing.

Changing the Story

My very first year of college (probably within a few weeks of the semester starting) I was labelled a “slut.” I’m not sure if it was just the people I was hanging out with calling me that or if the whole school knew about my rendezvous’ but it was out there. I was mortified, embarrassed, and downright ashamed that I had let someone think they could label me in such a way.

It was one girl spreading this rumor about me (at least that I know of). And she let any and every one know that I was a “slut” the entire 4 years I attended that school. Some of my friends would tell me about it, how she spoke to them about me and my promiscuous activities. One of my friends even said, “well you’re not like that now so I really didn’t pay attention to anything she was saying.” I was grateful to hear that although someone took it upon herself to drag my name through the mud, my friends, people who actually knew me didn’t care.

I’m telling you this story in hopes that as women we can leave this type of behavior in the past. For some reason, women oftentimes feel the need to compete and minimize one another. We struggle to trust other women, and therefore, tend to be on guard with other women, and quite frankly it is just sad and unnecessary.

I am a strong believer in lifting one another up rather than tearing each other down.

So lets first examine why we behave this way toward our fellow sex. According to, Tracy Vaillencourt who wrote an literature review analyzing why women behave in this way it is due to a woman’s tendency to express indirect aggression toward other women, and this aggression is a form of “self promotion” and “derogation of rivals.” In other words, women try to make themselves look better by being catty to other women.

There are two psychological theories surrounding women’s use of indirect aggression toward other women. The first theory, Evolutionary psychology, states that women use indirect aggression to protect themselves while diminishing the value of other women. Feminist psychology basically says that because we are taught that our value as a woman lies in securing a man, we turn on each other.

But it doesn’t have to be like this. We don’t have to be like this. So let’s break the mold and be better.

The point of this blog is to empower women. Support one another and just be better by knowing better. I know I get anxious when I’m meeting up with a group of girls because we tend to be so critical of one another. I know my hair, makeup, and outfit all needs to be on point, and everytime I do this, I ask myself, “why am I doing this?” And it’s because I don’t want to be unfairly judged, and it’s exhausting.

So I challenge you to BE the change, change the story of what it means to be a woman.